Wednesday, November 27, 2013

MARRIAGE – Either a BOON or a    BURDEN…??



Whatever I am going to write now its little early for me to conclude. I always had a feeling that marriage is one of the most pious traditions of our society. And this conclusion was based after seeing my parents and grand-parents and all those people who are very much happy with their better – half. But this whole theory is almost two decade old.
And now I feel the situation is different. Marriage is no more a pious engagement rather for me it’s a gamble. You play and win in the sense that you and your family are very happy with your new family member or you lose it totally. People changes and so their behavior after marriage.
Sometimes I think what can be the solution of this problem. At the end of the day we need to find out a solution. People’s faith is slowly n gradually vanishing from this culture and if it continues to happen this way then it’ll change the whole concept of our nature.
People are so self-dependent and reluctant that they are not ready to compromise on any front. And this idea goes for both sexes. Women, no more want to forfeiture their individuality for the well-being of their relation or their family. It’s a age of Alpha women where their career prospect is more important than their family.
Personally I too believe in the concept of alpha women – to make your own identity but I totally disagree with shaping this individuality at the verge of a relations. Making marriage successful is a big deal now days. But at one point of time one has to compromise if you really want to make your marriage a successful one. And many times it’s the female side that has to do so. I know it sounds taboo by stating such statement being a 21st century girl. But stop being feminist n face this bitter reality. Either believes in the tradition of marriage n give your 100% or else be a true alpha women. You can manage your office and family at one time. But you can’t be a winner in both the fields.

Be a good manager but stop being a champion in both the fields.