MARRIAGE – Either a BOON or a    BURDEN…??

Whatever I am going to write now its little early for me to conclude. I always had a feeling that marriage is one of the most pious traditions of our society. And this conclusion was based after seeing my parents and grand-parents and all those people who are very much happy with their better – half. But this whole theory is almost two decade old.

And now I feel the situation is different. Marriage is no more a pious engagement rather for me it’s a gamble. You play and win in the sense that you and your family are very happy with your new family member or you lose it totally. People changes and so their behavior after marriage.

Sometimes I think what can be the solution of this problem. At the end of the day we need to find out a solution. People’s faith is slowly n gradually vanishing from this culture and if it continues to happen this way then it’ll change the whole concept of our nature.

People are so self-dependent and reluctant that they are not ready to compromise on any front. And this idea goes for both sexes. Women, no more want to forfeiture their individuality for the well-being of their relation or their family. It’s a age of Alpha women where their career prospect is more important than their family.

Personally I too believe in the concept of alpha women – to make your own identity but I totally disagree with shaping this individuality at the verge of a relations. Making marriage successful is a big deal now days. But at one point of time one has to compromise if you really want to make your marriage a successful one. And many times it’s the female side that has to do so. I know it sounds taboo by stating such statement being a 21^st century girl. But stop being feminist n face this bitter reality. Either believes in the tradition of marriage n give your 100% or else be a true alpha women. You can manage your office and family at one time. But you can’t be a winner in both the fields.

Be a good manager but stop being a champion in both the fields.

LIFE :- VERY MUCH PREDICTABLE SOMETIMES..

I heard my elder saying – life is very unpredictable and be prepared for every twist and turns it has planned on your way. After all its better “to be safe than to be sorry” .

Till now I used to agree with this fact but slowly I win over one of the common phenomena of life and totally predicted its result.

You must be thinking what phenomena, what presage I am talking about. Let’s be straight –

Action and reaction of people if you are successful and if you are not.

And precisely success means your financial success. I heard about DARWIN’s theory – survival of fittest. But I understand its true meaning only when I am facing all catastrophe or tussles of my life.

I know, I am pointing out a very common fact of this journey called LIFE. But you know what..??? The best part is, you understand this verifiable truth only when you can see that these things or dictum are actually happening with you. This is the phase when I am so uncertain about my future and so predictable about people views and their takes on me. And the harsh reality is here “people” includes all those whom earlier you used to consider as your well-wisher, companion, counsel etc.

Life left you all alone when you really need people. But the most luring part is, you learn to fight in solitary without expecting anything from anybody and depend only on one person that is – U and YOURSELF.

Oh my god, I have gained a new skill while going with the flow of life and that is – PHILOSOPHY. Lol

Never mind I’ll accept it as my new talent..-p

Till then – do whatever you want to do or what makes you happy cause at the end of the day you’ll be the only one to suffer or to relieve.

KEEP SMILING...!

POLITICS n POLITICIANS..???? POLITICS n POLITICIANS..

I have always been asked that on what subject my blogs are based. Actually I don’t have exact answer for this, because my blogs are not based on any issues or subject rather I write what my mind dictates. Being a common man I have my own views which I want to depict but the canvas is not large enough neither the viewers. Hence I find blogs the best way to express my point view.

And my recent dilemma is U.P ELECTION n its related POLITICS. I really don’t understand what the government and the politician are unto.
Mayawati has invested crores of money just to show her dominance in the state by building her idols. And no political party is speaking much on this issue. May I know why..?
I believe if a common man is electing its representative then it must work for the benefit of its people because at the end of the day we are paying them. But I don’t understand what the benefit in building parks and images.
India is a place where a normal middle class family seeks the help of educational loans and other kind of privileges in order to provide higher education to their children’s. Or one of the siblings has to sacrifice. It’s a place where people find it difficult to manage proper living standards.
And again this is a place where the government is paying more attention towards building idols and parks rather than investing on education and poor section of the society.
But who is guilty for this.
I think the victims are the culprits..
Because we allow these politician to work for their benefit rather than working for the benefit of its people. If mayawati was investing so much money on parks n idols then she should have that fear that she would have to answer to the voters about this investment and the misuse of money. But she is not because she knows and actually every politicians know that they are not answerable to their voters. Because most of the voters in U.P comes from the illiterate section who were not bothered or not aware of this misuse..
Lucknow resident have traditionally been reluctant voters. The state capital has never managed a 50% turnout in elections. This is the figure of one the most educated and advanced city of the state, where the voters are at least educated enough to know the problem and judge the bad governance of the ruling government but they not bothered and that’s why they didn’t come out to vote.
This problem is really old with just one solution – speak for your rights and question the government if u don’t find them working for the benefit of a COMMON MAN.
SPEAK UP..!

To be or not to be.. !

I m updating my blog aftr a long time. And the reason behind is that i don't knw what should i write.
Becoz at the end of the day i dnt want to write about "ANNAJI - FIGHT AGAINST CORRUPTION" (as few ppl suggested me) as i feel there r lot more thinker who had given their point of view n people listen them. I m just a victim in this arena - A very own common man.. !
Then my mind clicked n i had a question in my mind.. A million dollar question.

In this competitive world, is there any place for a average man to reach at the top of hierarchy of any association...??

Everybody want to talk abt,write abt,listen abt student graduated frm IIT or IIM.

E.g - 5 point someone one of the most praised novel. It deals with 3 iitans
- Again,if god was a banker ( by ravi subramanium based on corporate world) it deals with 2 iim graduates who achieved grt height in retail banking.

I dnt hav a prob. wit that bcoz its nature's law - survival of fittest.. !
And these iitans n iiams graduates have done sum real hard work during their early phase and that's y god is jus being honest n loyal to them n paying for their hard work.
But wht abt those average students like me who graduated frm a normal private collage n standing in crowd that sumday,sumone,somewhere will recognize his/her talent n potential.
The typical phenomena is that if u r average person then u'll start ur career wit a salary of 3.5 lakh PA n retire with 15 lakh p.a.. Having a normal small car aftr 3-5 years of ur career n ends with a sedan.. !
The common procedure is that if u born average then in mst of the cases u'll die a bit more than average. Only few of them ends with a Merc or Audi.. ! Hence..

LIFE IS REALLY TOUGH....
B READY TO FACE IT.... ! ! ! !

MY BELIEF...!

Just done with my semester exams and I am totally free n unemployed these days. Hence, I am spending some quality time with me i.e. my soul n beliefs..!

Before I move further, just want to confess that I am writing what my mind is dictating to me. One more confess to make is that, while reading this you may encounter words like I. MY, MYSELF many times. Can’t help it I am little self-obsessed..!

It’s been said – that communication is a key requirement to be an effective leader in a large organization. Those who write well learn to synthesize their ideas better, it makes them better thinker.

My mind is a large organization in its self and at least I am the leader of this large n messy organization. That’s why, I am writing about my state of mind to synthesize my ideas n dilemmas well. That may produce me as a better thinker.

I indulge myself in continuous negotiations n communications with my self-belief n many perceptions that my mind builds. It is always surrounded by an aura of confusion. Dilemma to judge my thinking and beliefs, which is utterly different from the person who surrounds me. Sometimes I find myself more appropriate n right than those people who are much more experienced n mature than me. And at this point, my mind n soul argues with each other.

My mind says, I am absolutely right with my thinking. On the other hand, my heart n soul contradicts me that how can I question the thinking of those people who are much more experienced than me. Is this is my over-confidence ( a typical youth mentality as termed by our elders)...? Or I am really more mature regarding my ideas at few instances..!

I am confused & searching for a reason as well explanation. Reason because this dilemma is raising a lot of question my CONFIDENCE level.

And explanation to explain others that my thinking are not immature. I think I’ll find all reasons n explanations after I’ll achieve something in life. My success n my new identity will speak on my behalf & it’ll change others perceptions towards my ideas n beliefs..!

TILL THEN ITS TIME TO ACT….

NOT TO REACT..!

ATTITUDE- A word that better defines me..!

ATTITUDE... This word has always followed me in my school, collage n day-to-day life..! Out of 100 people in my collage 80 of them had declared me a gal with loads of attitude..! well,i take it as a compliment..! But,i really don't know on what grounds people judge me..! I m not writing this to clarify my nature rather, i m asking u all that "what is the meaning of attitude in your words..!"

To ignore your loved ones n well-wishers... Is that attitude..?

To pass on sarcastic comments on the person who had a feelings 4u..! Or to hurt some one with your words . Do u define it as attitude..????

Its not that big question, coz everybody has its own definition..!

But,4me this is not at all what u call "ATTITUDE"...!

Make ur image so that every body wants to talk to you but only few of them got the rights n capability to interact with you..! Some deeper meaning guyz..! N this is my THEORY of "ATTITUDE":- I follow it honestly n regularly..! So, 4 ol of you.. this is YASHSWEY CHOUHAN- a gal with loads of

positive attitude.. signing off n LOVE YOU ALL..!

HONOR KILLING- Dark side of modern India..!

INDIA- Having the largest democracy, one of the fastest growing economy. And we are about to update our status from developing to a developed nation. India is on the fast track of becoming a super power.

This is a new India where everything is modern..

- Night outs for girls is no more taboo.

- Live-in n homosexual relationship are legalized.

- And children's are quite open to discuss about their gal friend n boy friend with their parents.

But at the same time there is another India. The India that has not progressed along or as its alleged messiahs put it "protected itself from the bad influenced of change". It has been left somewhere in between in the darkness of orthodoxy.

And the perfect E.G of this conservative attitude is the "DELHI HONOR KILLING" case. Where a family allegedly murdered its own daughter & her boyfriend in the name of " HONOR KILLING".

The so called " Honor killing" are murders by families on family members who are believed to have brought "shame" on the family name. It is a blot that is not that easy to hide or erase.

Although love marriage and live-in relationship are acceptable in metros but the situation is not same in other parts of the country. The reason is clash of thinking, young educate

d people have changed their outlook with time & start coming out of traditional beliefs system. But their families are still carrying that orthodox attitude. Here comes the clash of ideas & beliefs. Honor killing is the culmination of this clash. But,i think this clash of ideas can be solved with a human approach.

So,lets come & join hands against this barbaric practice which is becoming shame to our country.

And at the end i just wanna say- Its the almighty who decides the end of a persons life and if you are trying to do so then for me you are a MURDERER..!